Tonight, while I was sitting on the couch at home, I heard my wife scream from behind me. I quickly turned my head to see her finger right next to my face with an enormous spider crawling towards me. Doing the manly thing, I screamed. Not only did I act cowardly with my voice, I also jumped out of my seat and backed up as fast as I could. I was terrified! It ended up being a fake spider, and about five minutes later my heart calmed down.
What does this have to do with facing my problems? The truth is that I try to scare my wife all the time. I think it is hilarious when I make her jump and scream. At the same time, I do not like being scared; I have double-standards. Tonight, after I recovered from the shock of being scared, I was irritated with Nicole. In my mind, I was thinking: "I thought something was really wrong when she screamed; how can she expect me to think it's funny when she makes me worry about her at the same time?" I was being irrational. I can think its funny to scare her, but how dare she scare me!
As I pondered this situation, I realized I need to be conscious of the standards I set, intentionally or not. I need to stand firm against my own selfishness and be able to take what I give out. Only then will I learn to understand the people I love in a deeper, more effective way. Being sensitive to others needs is important; it is just as important to be sensitive to the standards we set for others, sometimes without even realizing it.
Here is my pic of the day, showing the way I look after I get upset:
3 comments:
^_^
Ish otay!
Steph didn't exactly scream when she was trying to skish a beetle on sunday... She just kinda whacked it. And whacked it again.
And again.
And it still didn't die.
Then she whacked it again...
'Cuz that's just how she rolls ^^
And I would know about the whole jump and scream thing.
You've done it to me twice.
Grrr...
^_^
Just jokes!
-Steph
That's a funny picture, too...!
XD
hehehe, I now have to remember this, seeing as how halloween is so close...
mwahaha!
MD
Post a Comment